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POPSA quiet voice for gay marriage Many of these former spouses -- from those who still feel raw resentment toward their exes to those who have reached a mutual understanding -- see the legalization of same-sex marriage as a step toward protecting not only homosexuals but also heterosexuals. If homosexuality was more accepted, they say, they might have been spared doomed marriages followed by years of self-doubt. "It's like you hit a brick wall when they come out," Brooks said. "You think everything is fine and then, boom!" Carolyn Sega Lowengart calls it "retroactive humiliation." It's that embarrassment that washes over her when she looks back at photographs or is struck by a memory and wonders what, if anything, from that time was real. Did he ever love her?
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POPSThe abusive "ex-gay" movement I tried to become an "ex-gay" for twenty years. I tried it all. It didn't work. And it wasn't for lack of repentance, lack of sincerity, or lack of effort! You can't change your orientation! You may be able to control your behavior, but it is at great cost ... shame, self-hate, depression ... too high of a cost for some ideology that says loving someone of the same sex is sin...
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POPSLaughs All Around Of course Mike thinks gay marriage would be bad for society, bad for marriage, and bad for children. WRONG, WRONG, WRONG. Everyone has a right to fall in love with whomever they choose, and it's inappropriate for him to politic on a "religious" ( I could argue otherwise) platform for government to mediate our relationships. In fact, it is only reinforcing beliefs that are homophobic and teaching others to hate homosexuals. He is totally free to live his life according to his beliefs; God bless America. But it's morally and civilly wrong for him to prevent other people from being happy in their own love.
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POPSDr. Gary Remafedi Says ‘Ex-Gay’ Group Manipulated His Study And Should Immediately Take The Distortions Off Its Website Dr. Remafedi’s study was the one cited by PFOX to back their unfounded conclusions. Today, Dr. Reamafedi released the following comments to Truth Wins Out: “My work has been cited by PFOX in response to a Washington Post article on gay-straight alliances (GSA),” wrote Dr. Remafedi. “PFOX misuses one of my studies on suicide attempts in gay youth to argue that people should not identify their sexual orientation at young ages. Our findings do not support the contention that young people choose their identity or the timing of events in identity formation. Nor is there any evidence that the availability of GSAs influences those developmental processes.”
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POPSHomophobia Is Not Christian "Adds Smith: "The moment reminded me of a conversation I had recently with a senior figure in the national gay rights movement, who noted that Obama's deference to some black Christian discomfort with homosexuality — his refusal to dump the "ex-gay" gospel singer Donnie McClurkin from a tour — angered some gays and lesbians; but conversely, that his ability to sell gay rights in the black church is unique and appealing."
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POPSPray Away Gay "What, if anything do you think Ted Haggard will say publicly about his experience? Certainly if the evangelical former pastor has not truly reclaimed his heterosexuality after the very strict re-programming, it would be a serious blow to the ex-gay industry if he were to come forward and say that he now realizes that his same-sex desires are neither evil or wrong and that these cures have nothing to do with getting right with God."
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POPSObama Fails Crucial Gay Test Well, it appears that Obama has made up his mind. The concerts take place this weekend, and McClurkin remains on the program. Obama has made his choice; that he will not choose, and let the homophobe appear while at the same time, offering time to a pro-gay minister. Seems to me if Obama cannot make the correct moral decision for fear of upsetting bigots, than he certainly is in no position to make decisions about other issues as well. This from a man who has faced discrimination his entire life. A different kind of politician? I fear not.
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POPSNew Debate on 'Curing' Gays I think this represents a big changed in relatively little time. It wasn't so long ago that gays were reviled as "fags" or "queers" and homosexuality was considered and treated as a psychological disorder. No religious conservative--Catholic, Protestant, Jew, or Muslim--would stand up in the pulpit today and declare that blacks are inferior human beings. And it's only a matter of time before they stop calling gays and lesbians inferior also. For the very same reason: it contradicts God's love for all creation.
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POPSAnother Homophobic So-Called ex-Gay Ministry Falls. I was delighted to hear of the demise of the very dangerous and hateful so-called ministry. These groups do enormous damage to gays and the entire gay community by insisting on insisting the homosexuality is some kind of sinful, personal conscious choice, and claiming they can "cure" people of this dreaded condition. They spread lies and hate about the gay community and yet, eventually they are revealed to be as phony as the proverbial three dollar bill.
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POPSEx-gay - Boston Legal - excellent scene/speech Intelligent speech and examples. We need more such eloquent and elegant examples that is intelligent enough to make even the most prejudice at least notice the intellectual embarassment in their position. A good way of fighting prejudice is to illustrate the built-in lack of applied intelligence and wisdom, to emphasise that the pride one can build as a modern human being involves truly embracing the value foundation of the human rights, individual freedom and tolerance. And also that wisdom has a strong element of tolerance in it.
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POPSHelp for the Self-Hating Homo Help embracing your self-hatred, that is. At least that's what NARTH's Dr. Nicolosi is offering Ted Haggard. The appropriate therapeutic response to self-abhorrence is affirmation, apparently. (i.e. "I hate myself." "Good. You should hate yourself.") Considering that Haggard has struggled unsuccessfully with this all his life, according to his letter, and that even his main man J.C. hasn't offered much help, It remains to be seen what Nicolosi can accomplish with Haggard. No worries though. The usual response when "ex-gay" therapy doesn't work is to say "You didn't pray hard enough." It's no sweat to add, "You didn't hate yourself enough.
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POPSThe Ethics of Outing the Unethical Theantidesi makes a good point about the "fine line" one walks when outing the likes of Ted Haggard, yet I can't bring myself to be worried about more about Haggard than about the families that will be affected by the constitutional amendment he supported. Haggard took that stance from a position of privilege purchased at the cost of his honesty and integrity, from which he sought to exact an even greater price from others like himself, but who had chosen a life of honestly and integrity that that he couldn't choose without his world imploding. The only part of his story that elicits any sympathy from me is that his world imploded anyway. But gay families in Colorado will still have to live with the consequences of the amendment he backed.
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POPSThe End of the Ex-Gay Movement? if He isn’t going to step in and wave His magic wand and cure a Ted Haggard of “repulsive and dark” homosexual urges—what hope does the average homo have for a cure?
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