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POPSTen cognitive distortions that mess you up David Burns is a pioneer in popularizing the cognitive-behavioral approach to mood therapy developed by Aaron Beck. As someone who has struggled on and off with crippling depression my whole life, I have found this list of "cognitive distortions" pretty useful in reframing certain elements of my thinking.
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POPSDalai Lama’s 18 rules for living # Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before. # Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other. # Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
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POPS71 Things You Can Do Here's a few: # Stand up straight and have good posture. # Look people in the eyes when you talk to them. # Smile. # Be polite. # Keep your promises. # Never speak worse about a person behind their back than you do to their face. (Feel free to say nicer things about a person behind their back than to their face.) # Don't gossip and don't have a big mouth. # Never judge other people harsher than you judge yourself. # Forgive, but never forget. # Don't have skeletons in your closet. # Keep as few secrets as reasonably possible. # Despite the rule before this one, keep your friends' secrets. # Privately question your own values. # Avoid questioning other people's values, especially in public. # Listen more than you talk. # Never tell other people that you think they or something they are doing is immoral or sinful. # Keep your moral values and religion to yourself. Use them to direct your own actions. # Don't be camera shy. # Say "I love you" often.
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POPSZen Story - "Maybe"
I think this is such an important message to maintain throughout the apparent highs and lows of life. There are more Zen stories at the source.
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POPSTo all the kids, who had survived the ..1960s,70!!! If YOU are one of them . . CONGRATULATIONS! You might want to share this with others who have had the luck to grow up as kids, before the lawyers and the government regulated so much of our lives for our own good…… And while you are at it, forward it to your kids so they will know how brave (and lucky) their parents were.
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POPSI believe "I believe in a personal god who cares about me and worries and oversees everything I do. I believe in an impersonal god who set the universe in motion and went off to hang with her girlfriends and doesn't even know that I'm alive. I believe in an empty and godless universe of causal chaos, background noise, and sheer blind luck. I believe that anyone who says sex is overrated just hasn't done it properly. I believe that anyone who claims to know what's going on will lie about the little things too. I believe in absolute honesty and sensible social lies. I believe in a woman's right to choose, a baby's right to live, that while all human life is sacred there's nothing wrong with the death penalty if you can trust the legal system implicitly, and that no one but a moron would ever trust the legal system. I believe that life is a game, that life is a cruel joke, and that life is what happens when you're alive and that you might as well lie back and enjoy it." Neil Gaiman
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POPSPhuket: Rain of glass spheres more: A spokesperson for the center told the Gazette that the collected spheres had been sent by plane to the Department of Medical Sciences in Bangkok. “The findings will be announced as soon as possible,” said the officer. The appearance of the balls has stirred much excitement among villagers, one of whom was tempted to chew one of the balls, before being reprimanded by Ms Paweenarak and told to wait for the results of the science center’s findings. Many locals also see the event as a fortuitous omen and are making lottery predictions based on numbers surrounding the phenomenon.
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POPSMarriage tips for men >Love is blind. Marriage is the eye-opener >Success in marriage is more than finding the right person. It's becoming the right person!
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POPSWhy This White Guy Was Not Arrested While Trying to Break Into a House Not His Own All was well ... My hope is that lots of white folks will finally get what our African-American brothers and sisters have been trying to get through our thick skulls for about half a century now. It's different being black. No matter whether we think we are racists. And anyway, no person of color believes any white person who says, "I'm not a racist." When we hunt for housing, real estate agents regard us more favorably. We don't get followed by store security. We get better deals from car salesmen, more generous treatment from juries, and -- despite myths of rampant affirmative action -- our kids rarely compete with equally qualified African-American kids because so many urban schools, where most black kids are educated, are flat-out disasters.
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