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POPSFriendship: The Laws of Attraction Friendship: The Laws of Attraction The conventional wisdom is that we choose friends because of who they are. But it turns out that we actually love them because of the way they support who we are. By:Karen Karbo
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POPSHow to Use First Names In the world of influence, names are money. Schoolteachers know it. Bartenders know it. Salesmen know it. Very polite children know it. These people have figured it out. A name well used makes any person feel seen. When someone uses my name, I know that he has at least considered me in some fashion, that my presence has registered. It conveys a substratum of intimacy, a level of connection, a sense that life does not have to be lived in a torpid fog of anonymous comings and goings.
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POPSSex Is Good For You "When people feel deeply close while merely holding hands, they are having sex. When people display caring for each other through hugs, caresses, and kissing, they are also having sex. When connecting people in a crowded room wink at each other in their own secret way, they are communicating sex to each other; such non-contact sex can be excitedly arousing and emotionally fulfilling. And, of course, during sexual union when the sky seems to open so a lightning bolt can strike the couple--while fireworks ignite and the earth stops spinning-- this is sex, too." Emotional intimacy is so important and the first step is to allow yourself to be vulnerable with someone is taking the time to build that intimacy with others. One of the primary reasons I've always felt close to women is because of emotional intimacy. The whole package of love, companionship and sex can be so appealing, and I think that is one of the reasons men are attracted to women.
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POPSIntimacy In A Fluid World FM-2030 was a name adopted by the transhumanist philosopher and futurist Fereidoun M. Esfandiary (October 15, 1930–July 8, 2000), who professed "a deep nostalgia for the future."
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POPSBrave New World of Digital Intimacy 
It is easy to become unsettled by privacy-eroding aspects of awareness tools. But there is another — quite different — result of all this incessant updating: a culture of people who know much more about themselves. Many of the avid Twitterers, Flickrers and Facebook users I interviewed described an unexpected side-effect of constant self-disclosure. The act of stopping several times a day to observe what you’re feeling or thinking can become, after weeks and weeks, a sort of philosophical act. It’s like the Greek dictum to “know thyself,” or the therapeutic concept of mindfulness. (Indeed, the question that floats eternally at the top of Twitter’s Web site — “What are you doing?” — can come to seem existentially freighted. What are you doing?) Having an audience can make the self-reflection even more acute, since, as my interviewees noted, they’re trying to describe their activities in a way that is not only accurate but also interesting to others: the status update as a literary form.
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POPSWhy Eye Contact Matters And for the one who's being looked at, eye contact sends a message, signaling acknowledgment, connection, and attention, signaling something, I suppose, like empathy. Being seen is, on some level, being felt. It's nice to be acknowledged.
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POPSNarcissistic People Most Likely To Emerge As Leaders It is important not to confuse narcissism with high self-esteem, she said. “A person with high self-esteem is confident and charming, but they also have a caring component and they want to develop intimacy with others,” Brunell explained. “Narcissists have an inflated view of their talents and abilities and are all about themselves. They don’t care as much about others.”
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POPSSlow Sex Sex is the ultimate trust with another human being isn't it? We trust that they desire us and we want intimacy in a relationship. While it certainly is easy to reach our to your partners genitals to get something going, it's impersonal and it's not touching what is the best in yourself. While on the surface it seems that sex is a biological drive like a need for food, I feel this kind of thinking tends to limit our perspectives and actually interferes with our relationships.
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POPSA poem. the poem is here thanx to Jorge Luis Borges. the anticipation of Love is here because of human's desire. the Gangas river delta is here 10x to Aribeth clip..-) Our Earth as Art is a site with views on earth through the eyes of the Landsat-7 satellite. Both-to my eyes- Lansat-7 and Borges are working from space ...... ))
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POPSIs Language a Window into Human Nature? the way it parses the world around us, the way it uses shortcuts and assumptions would have served our hunter-gatherer ancestors well, but it is less than perfect for dealing with some of the problems we face in the 21st Century.
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POPSTony Snow, Dies at 53 Robert Anthony Snow was born June 1, 1955, in Berea, Ky., the son of a teacher and nurse. He graduated from Davidson College in 1977 with a bachelor's degree in philosophy, and he taught briefly in Kenya before embarking on his career as a journalist. He became a nationally syndicated columnist, and in 1991 he became director of speechwriting for President George H.W. Bush. Snow had his colon removed and underwent six months of chemotherapy after he was diagnosed with colon cancer in 2005. In 2007, he announced that his cancer had recurred and had spread to his liver. He resigned from the White House weeks later and was replaced by his deputy, Dana Perino. After taking time off to recuperate, Snow joined CNN as a conservative political correspondent early this year. Snow is survived by his wife, Jill, their son Robbie and their daughters Kendell and Christie.
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POPSInfidelity Dissected: New Research On Why People Cheat "Her studies revealed no differences between men and women. Just as many men and women had an avoidant attachment style and the correlation with infidelity is just as strong on both sides. "Contrary to popular belief, infidelity isn't more prevalent in men," she says."
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POPSThe Touch Barrier Sometimes church's are referred to as "God's frozen people" since any signs of affection may be considered inappropriate for fear of sexuality. Wow, how sad that is! This has got to be another one of those uptight American things, huh? *LOL* Thaw out, people! Go for it! Hug someone! Remember if it doesn't kill you, it will make you stronger. (Happier and healthier, too) ;) (((((HUG))))) I hope you all survived that. :lol:
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POPSTop Ten Dating Mistakes There is more information in the site from Dr. Allison Conner. If you find that you are in a relationship that has a lot of benefits but there are some kinks that need to be addressed, best to discover effective ways of handling these conflicts early on. Relationship coaching or couples therapy can help you learn how to better manage problematic issues so that they are no longer impinging on the health and happiness of your relationship.
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POPSTriangular Theory of Love - Sternberg From article: "This theory is elegant in its simplicity, yet consistent with everyday notions of love. Moreover, the theory is relevant to the development of relationships over time. For example, before meeting another person the three components of love would be absent (nonlove). After meeting, liking may develop (intimacy). Perhaps some degree of commitment develops also, suggesting companionate love. If passion develops as well, then full consummate love has flowered. Other developmental trajectories are possible. A sudden burst of passion and commitment may develop from an initial meeting. Fatuous love seems an appropriate name for such instant, committed attraction. Perhaps a full consummate relationship loses its passion and intimacy, but retains strong commitment. The concept of empty love captures this situation well."
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POPS The ultimate sex guide for newlyweds -Don't use sex as a bargaining chip. Angry? Say something -- don't grunt or "hmph" and roll over. Withholding lovemaking when you're upset turns this deep, vulnerable connection into a nuclear weapon for power struggles. -Have realistic expectations. And in particular, dial back on multi-orgasmic, transcendental expectations. Even for the most happily married couples, more than 10 percent of sexual encounters aren't even pleasurable for one or both spouses. -Never underestimate the power of a quickie. You won't always have all the time in the world for making love -- and maybe you don't already.Don't overlook fast sex.It keeps the two of you in the intimacy loop, so you don't jeopardize the compassion, happiness, romance, and understanding that sexual closeness can bring.
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