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POPSFriendship: The Laws of Attraction Friendship: The Laws of Attraction The conventional wisdom is that we choose friends because of who they are. But it turns out that we actually love them because of the way they support who we are. By:Karen Karbo
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POPSHow to Use First Names In the world of influence, names are money. Schoolteachers know it. Bartenders know it. Salesmen know it. Very polite children know it. These people have figured it out. A name well used makes any person feel seen. When someone uses my name, I know that he has at least considered me in some fashion, that my presence has registered. It conveys a substratum of intimacy, a level of connection, a sense that life does not have to be lived in a torpid fog of anonymous comings and goings.
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POPSIntimacy In A Fluid World FM-2030 was a name adopted by the transhumanist philosopher and futurist Fereidoun M. Esfandiary (October 15, 1930–July 8, 2000), who professed "a deep nostalgia for the future."
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POPSWhy Eye Contact Matters And for the one who's being looked at, eye contact sends a message, signaling acknowledgment, connection, and attention, signaling something, I suppose, like empathy. Being seen is, on some level, being felt. It's nice to be acknowledged.
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POPSSlow Sex Sex is the ultimate trust with another human being isn't it? We trust that they desire us and we want intimacy in a relationship. While it certainly is easy to reach our to your partners genitals to get something going, it's impersonal and it's not touching what is the best in yourself. While on the surface it seems that sex is a biological drive like a need for food, I feel this kind of thinking tends to limit our perspectives and actually interferes with our relationships.
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POPSA poem. the poem is here thanx to Jorge Luis Borges. the anticipation of Love is here because of human's desire. the Gangas river delta is here 10x to Aribeth clip..-) Our Earth as Art is a site with views on earth through the eyes of the Landsat-7 satellite. Both-to my eyes- Lansat-7 and Borges are working from space ...... ))
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POPSIs Language a Window into Human Nature? the way it parses the world around us, the way it uses shortcuts and assumptions would have served our hunter-gatherer ancestors well, but it is less than perfect for dealing with some of the problems we face in the 21st Century.
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POPSThe Touch Barrier Sometimes church's are referred to as "God's frozen people" since any signs of affection may be considered inappropriate for fear of sexuality. Wow, how sad that is! This has got to be another one of those uptight American things, huh? *LOL* Thaw out, people! Go for it! Hug someone! Remember if it doesn't kill you, it will make you stronger. (Happier and healthier, too) ;) (((((HUG))))) I hope you all survived that. :lol:
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POPSTop Ten Dating Mistakes There is more information in the site from Dr. Allison Conner. If you find that you are in a relationship that has a lot of benefits but there are some kinks that need to be addressed, best to discover effective ways of handling these conflicts early on. Relationship coaching or couples therapy can help you learn how to better manage problematic issues so that they are no longer impinging on the health and happiness of your relationship.
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POPSTriangular Theory of Love - Sternberg From article: "This theory is elegant in its simplicity, yet consistent with everyday notions of love. Moreover, the theory is relevant to the development of relationships over time. For example, before meeting another person the three components of love would be absent (nonlove). After meeting, liking may develop (intimacy). Perhaps some degree of commitment develops also, suggesting companionate love. If passion develops as well, then full consummate love has flowered. Other developmental trajectories are possible. A sudden burst of passion and commitment may develop from an initial meeting. Fatuous love seems an appropriate name for such instant, committed attraction. Perhaps a full consummate relationship loses its passion and intimacy, but retains strong commitment. The concept of empty love captures this situation well."
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POPS The ultimate sex guide for newlyweds -Don't use sex as a bargaining chip. Angry? Say something -- don't grunt or "hmph" and roll over. Withholding lovemaking when you're upset turns this deep, vulnerable connection into a nuclear weapon for power struggles. -Have realistic expectations. And in particular, dial back on multi-orgasmic, transcendental expectations. Even for the most happily married couples, more than 10 percent of sexual encounters aren't even pleasurable for one or both spouses. -Never underestimate the power of a quickie. You won't always have all the time in the world for making love -- and maybe you don't already.Don't overlook fast sex.It keeps the two of you in the intimacy loop, so you don't jeopardize the compassion, happiness, romance, and understanding that sexual closeness can bring.
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POPSMistakes Men Make In Bed With Women There are 7 more mistakes in the list (40 in total), with brief explanations for each one of why it's a bad move. Also, some of these will probably also apply to homosexual intimacy as well...
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POPSAre Gay Bars a Thing of the Past? I go back to the days when gay bars were located in dingy areas, with blackened windows so no one could see in, and plain clothes cops looking to entrap customers. Those days, thank heaven, are over. Gay bars became glitzy, mainstream and very exciting. But now, it appears that due to the rise in acceptance of gays and lesbians in our society, the need for gay bars has dropped. Many gay people are now coupled, with children and are busy with the same kind of stuff heterosexuals have been preoccupied with forever. Sure, there will always be some gay bars, and that's fine, just as straight bars have not gone out of business. But the need for these establishments is far less urgent than previously.
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POPSWhy didn't the Polar Bear eat the Husky ? The top link to the page has a slide show, with the approach of the Polar Bear, and the subsequent play and grooming.of the Husky. It is clear there is no hostility. The wolf signaled play. While the bear may have been hungry, having nothing but snow and ice for a thousand miles (metaphorically) it would also have been bored out of it's mind. Seals are easier to eat, but they never want to play. Makes you wonder how smart huskies are.
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