Decent advice to follow, although sometimes taking a chance on something that you don't immediately recognize as "you", or that someone who knows you well recommends for you when you might otherwise have discounted it, can teach you a lot about yourself. For example, I intensely dislike shopping for clothes and usually am at a loss as to what to buy. Things I think of as "me" often look hideous on me, while some of my favorite clothes have been recommended by my friend, chosen from racks I passed by. Wearing the friend-selected clothes boosts my self-image and broadens my idea of "me". Funny how that works.