People Pleasing Disease


	People Pleasing Disease

abailart

7-28-2008 4:39 AM

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people pleasing, niceness

abailart says:

Interesting third part of series on "people pleasing" as an emotional disease, with some advice to sufferers on how to change and begin to please themselves.

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7-28-2008 4:15 PM

Antara

I don't like the word disease being used ...but i like the topic.

7-31-2008 6:10 PM

wiganfootie

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