Becoming Mindful About Feelings


	Becoming Mindful About Feelings

vienova4

6-25-2009 11:12 AM

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mental health, mindfulness, feelings, borderline

vienova4 says:

This is an excerpt from my blog post of a casual conversation between a colleague (C) and myself (M). Wonderfully therapeutic, and captures beautifully what being mindful is about.

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