I disagree with this article. I have a daughter who is mildly retarded and before we even knew about I always raised her to do what felt right for her. If she felt like crying, cry. If she felt like laughing, laugh. If she does something wrong to someone and doesn't want to apologize for it, I will understand, but she also needs to understand how it would feel if it were her that were hurt, how would she feel if the other person hurt her and didn't apologize how would she feel. She usually says bad and then sincerely apologizes to the child she hurt and they go back to playing again as if nothing happened.

My husband is of the school that if she cries, stop that crying or go to your ...

I disagree with this article. I have a daughter who is mildly retarded and before we even knew about I always raised her to do what felt right for her. If she felt like crying, cry. If she felt like laughing, laugh. If she does something wrong to someone and doesn't want to apologize for it, I will understand, but she also needs to understand how it would feel if it were her that were hurt, how would she feel if the other person hurt her and didn't apologize how would she feel. She usually says bad and then sincerely apologizes to the child she hurt and they go back to playing again as if nothing happened.

My husband is of the school that if she cries, stop that crying or go to your room to do it! I took tons of child development courses and psychology courses in high school and college before I had health problems because I wanted to go into special education. I was raised like my husband and I learned through the courses, along with parenting courses for the hell of it as a teen to become a better sitter, that it's ok to have feelings and to express them. And that's how I'm raising my daughter. Once I found out about her condition, I only felt more conviction that I was doing the right thing.