 einbar says: "There is a saying in many addiction recovery programs that goes like this: “If you keep going to the barber shop, eventually you’ll get a haircut.” Translated that means, stay away from temptation. Hanging around saloons or chocolatiers or raves or racetracks—name your poison—just increases the odds that your self-control will fail you someday. But is this true? Does the mere availability of something tempting weaken the will to resist?" Weaken is a strong word. Challenging - is my chosen word. Daily I flex and make the decision. By some standards it was the wrong & others it was correct. I have to be happy with myself in order to effectively not succumb or willingly be enticed by temptation. I have been willingly enticed by temptation far too many times. One common misconception about AA I often hear follows along the barber shop- argument lines. In fact, the program of AA doesn't posit that philosophy at all, it says flat out that "any plan which tries to shield the alcoholic from temptation is doomed to fail"....and goes further in saying that anyone who continues on in his sobriety clinging to that attitude is still enslaved by an "alcoholic mind", and predicts their chances at ever being RECOVERED (yes, recovered-permanent sobriety) is doomed to fail. The massive billion dollar industry that has sprung up since often refers it's "clients" to AA meetings as part of their "aftercare", but quite clearly they do not say the same things a... Booze all but demolished my liver. When well enough to walk, I went to the pub (mates were there). I drank water. I went back until I felt tempted. By spacing my visits, I stayed off it. I moved and this community which, it turns out, is more civilized with its drinking. Makes things easier. I feel I have beaten it and have been rewarded with knowing my grandchildren. There is always alcohol here for my wife and visitors. I am still a little edgy occasionally. That's to be expected. It seemed harder changing my diet for diabetes. Yes zelda, one little challenge after another. Take strength from others and smile at compliments. Good for you Tabsey  chocolate is a drug - and with drugs this kind of prevention won't work! Ask Mormons! einbar.. thanks to you on this post... as listed above this has opened a polite posting about a delicate subject. This only backs up my philosophy "We are all students as well as teachers-Open minds, hearts and souls can mend faster in groups of more than one." Thanks once again. Blessed Be! I've only been sober for two years after trying many times to quit drinking over a two-decade period. I go to the bar all the time to sing karaoke or to see friends, and don't feel 'tempted' at all. But then, I really feel that drinking was only the symptom of a deeper problem--self-worth issues, depression, fear... I definitely watch out for 'triggers' that may push me to drink. There seems to be some truth to the HALT acronym--Hungry Angry Lonely Tired. Times that I have relapsed in the past, it has been because I succumbed to a lonely or angry desperation--far from any source of alcohol--and THEN headed straight for the bar. And, yes, you read that correctly--I sing karaoke sober. i resist anything but temptation. Oscar Wild i can resist anything but temptation. Oscar Wild Interesting. That's the ONLY way I was able to quit smoking -- by carrying a pack with me and fondling it when I felt the urge. Repression of desire does not work. Knowing it's there always, worked for me. Most of items of temptations are based on infromation we are received and accpted. If the temptation are not helping us we can always visit our stored impressions, update them to give us lasting joy & satisfaction The |
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