Misery: the secret of happiness


	Misery: the secret of happiness

abailart

1-3-2008 3:49 PM

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misery, happiness, mental health

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'Cultural fairytales'. get real.

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1-3-2008 7:33 PM

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<FONT size="2">Therapists from California State University, Northridge and Virginia Tech say accepting these problems is better than striving for perfection.
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<FONT size="2">And they blame cultural fairytales and modern love stories for perpetuating the myth that enjoying a perfect relationship is possible.</FONT></P></blockquote><div style="height: 2px; font-size: 2px; background: #dcdcdc; border-bottom: solid 1px #f5f5f5; margin: 2px 4px;"></div><blockquote style="text-align: left; padding: 0px 8px; margin: 4px 0px 8px 0px; background: transparent; border: none;" cite="http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/6711071.stm"><P><FONT size="2">"The field of mental health perpetuates this myth with the very concept of "mental health," which implies a state without suffering," they say.
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