In Defense of Teasing


	In Defense of Teasing

einbar

12-9-2008 9:50 AM

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The reason teasing is viewed as inherently damaging is that it is too often confused with bullying.

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12-9-2008 9:52 AM

einbar

n teasing, we learn to use our voices, bodies and faces, and to read those of others — the raw materials of emotional intelligence and the moral imagination

We learn the wisdom of laughing at ourselves, and not taking the self too seriously

12-9-2008 8:15 PM

ofcapri

Like getting a thicker skin?

12-10-2008 1:23 AM

chedare

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