"It's not a bad thing that children should occasionally
and politely put parents in their place."
Colette

oh my. Had I EVER put my father in his place I would have not lived past that day. I knew that and did exactly what he told me to do or not do. Okay okay thats a lie. But I atleast respected him enough to make sure I got away with it. The problem today is kids have no respect for their parents. The parents allow the kids to stomp all over them. I disagree with this.

But what do I know?

You are right, googleit. The problem today are kids are spoiled rotten. Parents equate love with giving and letting them do everything they want.

I have raised 2 children. I spanked my daughter 1 time. The boy? He got it a few more times than that. But the reason for me not spanking them "much" isn't because I felt it was wrong or that I would be considered a bad parent for dishing out some physical punisment, it's because they respected me and by just having that aire about myself they didn't do things they knew would make me dissapointed with them. They wanted to make me happy and proud. I wasn't the perfect parent by any means but my children respected me and like me as a kid, for the most part, they made sure to get away with it too.

To some extent I do believe that today's children do not get enough attention. Their good behavior isn't reinforced and their bad behavior isn't properly dealt with promptly. Usually it's too much trouble for either parent who is too busy earning a living and then wanting to *veg* when they get home or they have zero parenting skills at all and/or lack the self-discipline needed to do the JOB. And it is a job.

Like googleit...I got a few spankings growing up; mostly from my mother and it was early on. I would never have dreamed of overtly disobeying, talking back to them, or causing them embarrassment.

I do see a lot of "little monsters" all around and 90% of the time (if they're young) it's the parents who bear the responsibility.

I'm certain it depends on the charastics of the child and of the parent. There are so many scenarios that make or break any kind of parent / child bond. Who really knows whats right or wrong. My brothers kids, as far as I'm concerned were little monsters and walked all over them. Today they are both very mentally healthy young adults. Both prospering in todays world. Ya just never know.

True, you never know. Just noticed as the article states...and it is subtle...the blind fear of parental authority doesn't work, neither does bribing or distraction...so the article states that we are actually forced as parents to show geniune attention..Really respond,