 balthazarus says: The question that arises is, what is considered as real? does one's identity online is less real than her offline one? on what basis? True, but at the same time not. I suppose to some extent it depends upon what YOU as an individual expect from your friends before you hold them close. Written under a nom-de-plume or not, I have the feeling that the tendency of the online persona is in many ways a highly idealized or well self-censored representation of one's being. That does not make it disingenuous, only the partial truth of one's perceivable self to understand. There is no way of be assured that any online friend is not a repository of possibly disqualifying grating social quirks which never show up in text of considered word and selected topic. Do they have a laugh like a drunken hyena? Do they park in handicapped spa... — Comment removed by clipper — It's a changing world and like it or not, the real world is no longer just out there, its here too. I think we have a great opportunity to learn from some mistakes that our society has made in the past. When it comes to relationships between two consenting adults, let say everyone else keeps their nose out of it and let those two people define their relationship the way that they want to. Wouldn't we all like the same consideration? thank you BB for your comment, i would say that : "a friend is one with whom you dare to be more than yourself" as pointing to the possible advantage of evolving through interaction. Thanks to clipmarks, my first engagement with internet 'chat'. I have joined several forums and enjoy writing and talking to new friends and also people who share interests. However, I still think a REAL friend, and I am blessed with them in flesh, blood and love, is something special. Of course, you have to meet people in some often casual chance encounter before you meet them as a person (and 'person' is a holy word), and it seems abundantly clear that many people do develop bonds of intimate personhood after meeting each other on the internet. I think that the total summation of one's personality off line is pretty much equal to their one online. For example, no way am I going to tell my age online. Those of you who speak with me often have a pretty good idea anyway. Off line, it isn't much of a secret. On the other hand, I say things here that I wouldn't particularly want my off line friends and family to know about. In either case, these are not big freekin deals. I'm not going to allow the brand of someone's deoderant dictate my relationship with them anyway. My God, if it bothers me that much, I'll tell them. Now, there are a few things I don't want anyone on or off line to know, not even God. And I defy anyone to tell me diff... Maybe to a taxi-driver or bartender you tell things too, that you won't tell your family and nearest friends!  Wherever we go, there we are. It happens ever time. We can't get away from ourselves that long to make that big of a difference. I think that we always tend to put out what we want people to see about us. One difference here is that it can be better thought out, when we engage with others and there is no judging by appearance. I feel freer online- mostly because I am not good at thinking before I speak out loud- I get really tongue tied- so for me, I tend to get more socially active online, even with people I know IRL. It's the best way to get to know me. Even when we meet people face-to-face for the first time we always (or at least most of us) tend to put our best face forward and down-play what we consider to be our flaws. Having online friends is no different than having old-fashioned pen-pals. It's just way quicker. Exactly |
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