Re #5's example...[at the page] They ask "How will you feel if I do this?" "How will you feel if I don't."

No. Not necessarily. Although showing respect for another persons feelings is *always* good...if this guide is the determining factor in *what i do* then i am codependent.

although i agree mostly with these "habits" a few or many of them - i forget - seem based in fear [codependency] rather than a genuine maturity of spirit.

#4, for example. Some people really do use their logical thoughts as a compass to decision-making [as opposed to their feelings]. For *me* to judge them as emotionally unintelligent [violating rule #9] is unintelligent..even if I don't say it, but think it.

How...

Re #5's example...[at the page] They ask "How will you feel if I do this?" "How will you feel if I don't."

No. Not necessarily. Although showing respect for another persons feelings is *always* good...if this guide is the determining factor in *what i do* then i am codependent.

although i agree mostly with these "habits" a few or many of them - i forget - seem based in fear [codependency] rather than a genuine maturity of spirit.

#4, for example. Some people really do use their logical thoughts as a compass to decision-making [as opposed to their feelings]. For *me* to judge them as emotionally unintelligent [violating rule #9] is unintelligent..even if I don't say it, but think it.

How am I to know that their path isn't such that they are *exactly* where they need to be in using *logic* as their motivating force to act? Especially if their feelings have been distorted due to trauma or drug use how irresponsible of me to tell them they need to use their feelings to act! [Ex. I feel self-loathing. Guess I need to kill myself? Goodness!]

#6. Feeling energized not angry? Um. Anger is an emotion. It's not good or bad. This one may've been better phrased to read, "Uses their anger for positivity instead of destruction."

I am sure I am nit-picking this but I am sensitive when i see anything or anyone judging a sect of people as less than or with a higher intelligence in any capacity.

I also did not see one of the biggest criterion for emotional intelligence that I think of as being primary: "Humility." This could also be a trait of Spiritual Intelligence, I imagine, but emotionally "well" people are secure enough in who they are that they need not belittle or use divisiveness in the need to *prove* it... it's the opposite of ego.

Re #1, also. Some people are so okay with who they are they need not "label" anything...even their emotions. A codependent sometimes does this with the innuendo being for the other to take care of them; and share their labels not to the

The ability based model views emotions as useful sources of information that help one to make sense of and navigate the social environment [12]. The model proposes that individuals vary in their ability to process information of an emotional nature and in their ability to relate emotional processing to a wider cognition. This ability is seen to manifest itself in certain adaptive behaviors. The model proposes that EI includes 4 types of abilities: [11]

1. Perceiving emotions - the ability to detect and decipher emotions in faces, pictures, voices, and cultural artifacts- including the ability to identify one’s own emotions. Perceiving emotions represents a basic aspect of emotional intel...

The ability based model views emotions as useful sources of information that help one to make sense of and navigate the social environment [12]. The model proposes that individuals vary in their ability to process information of an emotional nature and in their ability to relate emotional processing to a wider cognition. This ability is seen to manifest itself in certain adaptive behaviors. The model proposes that EI includes 4 types of abilities: [11]

1. Perceiving emotions - the ability to detect and decipher emotions in faces, pictures, voices, and cultural artifacts- including the ability to identify one’s own emotions. Perceiving emotions represents a basic aspect of emotional intelligence, as it makes all other processing of emotional information possible.
2. Using emotions - the ability to harness emotions to facilitate various cognitive activities, such as thinking and problem solving. The emotionally intelligent person can capitalize fully upon his or her changing moods in order to best fit the task at hand.
3. Understanding emotions - the ability to comprehend emotion language and to appreciate complicated relationships among emotions. For example, understanding emotions encompasses the ability to be sensitive to slight variations between emotions, and the ability to recognize and describe how emotions evolve over time.
4. Managing emotions - the ability to regulate emotions in both ourselves and in others. Therefore, the emotionally intelligent person can harness emotions, even negative ones, and manage them to achieve intended goals.