An Alternative to Punishment or Nagging


	An Alternative to Punishment or Nagging

Satchamo

4-12-2007 4:55 PM

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teaching, discipline, parenting, suggestions

Satchamo says:

Sounds good, since I'm no longer in a classroom, can't try it out. Seen lots of theories of discipline come and go.

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As an alternative to punishment or nagging, a parent/teacher can have the
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Teacher: (start guessing to determine which of the <A href="http://www.noogenesis.com/malama/discouragement/mistaken_goals.html">four
mistaken goals</A> a child is seeking. The first 4 groupings of questions
are for the mistaken goals of: attention, power, revenge, and inadequacy.
With experience, you will be able to zero in on the right question to ask,
and when you guess correctly, the child will all of a sudden feel understood,
and then begin to become cooperative. Begin your guess with the nonjudgemental
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Could it be that you want more attention from me?</blockquote><div style="height: 2px; font-size: 2px; background: #dcdcdc; border-bottom: solid 1px #f5f5f5; margin: 2px 4px;"></div><blockquote style="text-align: left; padding: 0px 8px; margin: 4px 0px 8px 0px; background: transparent; border: none;" cite="http://www.noogenesis.com/malama/discouragement/Dreikurs/could_it_be_that.html">
Could it be that you want to be the boss, to be in charge?</blockquote><div style="height: 2px; font-size: 2px; background: #dcdcdc; border-bottom: solid 1px #f5f5f5; margin: 2px 4px;"></div><blockquote style="text-align: left; padding: 0px 8px; margin: 4px 0px 8px 0px; background: transparent; border: none;" cite="http://www.noogenesis.com/malama/discouragement/Dreikurs/could_it_be_that.html">
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Could it be that you want to be left alone because you cannot do anything?</blockquote><div style="height: 2px; font-size: 2px; background: #dcdcdc; border-bottom: solid 1px #f5f5f5; margin: 2px 4px;"></div><blockquote style="text-align: left; padding: 0px 8px; margin: 4px 0px 8px 0px; background: transparent; border: none;" cite="http://www.noogenesis.com/malama/discouragement/Dreikurs/could_it_be_that.html">
Could it be that you feel insignificant unless you are the best in whatever
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