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7-31-2009 5:51 PM
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8-1-2009 12:27 PM
debbyski
I think people don't often question these roles society give us and often any relationship that is not heterosexual or monogamous is considered threatening.
8-1-2009 1:21 PM
tanyamm
Reminds me of 60's hippy days of free love. It didn't work then either.
8-1-2009 4:55 PM
sincitykitty
It does not scare me!
8-1-2009 5:51 PM
kelsoweikal
the expectation of life long monogamous heterosexual coupling is a relatively new phenomenon and deeply enmeshed with patriarchy, capitalism, and modern christianity. it certainly isn't a world-wide cultural value. and even those who espouse it as an ideal regularly do not live up to it.

what is different about polyamory is that everyone involved is aware of the other relationships, unlike adulterous secret affairs, and knowingly chooses a path of complexity but deep satisfaction...speaking from experience!
8-1-2009 7:34 PM
debbyski
What??? You mean espouse one set of morals while secretly having affairs? Ah, monogamy put in practice by society.
8-1-2009 8:26 PM
debbyski
Tany,

I think the whole free love movement in the 60's was more about doing what one wanted to do without really putting any time into a relationship. Relationships are hard work! Most people can't even handle one, much less more. I think it takes a lot of work to overcome powerful feelings such as insecurity and jealously and to be able to share. I don't think it's for everyone cuz most ppl couldn't even work that out in a monogamous relationship.
9-21-2009 8:16 PM
janclip1300
what is different about polyamory is that everyone involved is aware of
the other relationships, unlike adulterous secret affairs, and
knowingly chooses a path of complexity but deep satisfaction...speaking
from experience!
@kelsoweikal:
Yep. That's my experience too (and still). I wouldn't say that people are scared off when I tell that my girlfriend has another life partner. But most people do carry ideas that are as common as wrong. Like the assumption that I (because I'm a male) must have more than one relationships too.

Another frequently asked question is if I know the other guy and if we are good friends. As if it's normal to NOT know the other partner. A unhealthy tho...
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