Asking for Respect Does Not Mean I'm a Bitch


	Asking for Respect Does Not Mean I'm a Bitch

aerynvala

3-8-2007 3:29 PM

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feminism

aerynvala says:

Unconscious sexism is just as rude as overt sexism.

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3-9-2007 11:16 AM

UpStateMike

"She's just being a feminazi, so I'm going to ignore her."

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