8 Essential Strategies to Saying "No"


	8 Essential Strategies to Saying "No"

Torley

8-8-2007 7:39 PM

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Torley says:

A lucid read.

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8-8-2007 11:54 PM

enbar

Don't say "I'm sorry" because that makes you look weak? Not sure I buy that part. Otherwise, good advice.

8-9-2007 1:45 AM

mugofcoffee

agree with enbar...OTHERWISE excellent advice...

8-10-2007 8:45 PM

Torley

I think a "sorry" can be delivered firmly and with strength. I like to say "pardon" or "excuse me" because it conveys politeness without sniveling to get out of a situation!

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