don't say Yes when you want to say No: part 2


	don't say Yes when you want to say No: part 2

mugofcoffee

4-7-2007 8:21 PM

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say no, say yes, be firm, people, job, project.

mugofcoffee says:

If you say no, someone else will do the job. If you say yes, your other work will suffer...two different, yet interesting point of view of saying No firmly when needed from different set of intelligent people...interesting...(two different clips)

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Many people denigrate their own skills when saying no, protesting, "I'm really not the best person for this project." </blockquote><div style="height: 2px; font-size: 2px; background: #dcdcdc; border-bottom: solid 1px #f5f5f5; margin: 2px 4px;"></div><blockquote style="text-align: left; padding: 0px 8px; margin: 4px 0px 8px 0px; background: transparent; border: none;" cite="http://www.forbes.com/2007/03/19/career-commitment-no-lead-careers-worklife07-cx-hc_0319no.html">Even saying yes to a tiny request could get you in trouble. A commitment that seems small can easily grow</blockquote><div style="height: 2px; font-size: 2px; background: #dcdcdc; border-bottom: solid 1px #f5f5f5; margin: 2px 4px;"></div><blockquote style="text-align: left; padding: 0px 8px; margin: 4px 0px 8px 0px; background: transparent; border: none;" cite="http://www.forbes.com/2007/03/19/career-commitment-no-lead-careers-worklife07-cx-hc_0319no.html">To learn to say no, start by identifying why you always say yes. 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