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so "the one" can be many?  Fast T: One of my favorite books on the topic of relationships was written by Thomas Moore. The name of the book was Soul Mates. He writes.. We may find a soul partner in many different forms of relationship - in friendship, marriage, work, play and family. It is a rare form of intimacy, but it's not limited to one person or to one formI guess that's what I believe. I am with you on that wurdzgurl. I believe a community of 'ones' is a healthy form of interaction; I also think that the belief in The One has made many people pretty miserable. It is time for change I've seen many couples in unhappy relationships. Being single, at least for a while, can certainly center a person on the importance of companionship, relationships and provide a sense of self. and provide a sense of selfCompanionship and sense of self. Isn't this entanglement one of the most complex yet fundamental components in our life? and aren't relationships of all kinds thrilling for that same fundamental yet complex and wonderful thing? I think we stand for higher probability of realizing it when we are not adopting a form (whether in a couple or other) as a condition for that realization. The reason that I clipped this was that I was paying attention to how many people qualify the fact that they are married... "Happily married". It's as if the normal state of marriage is that of being unhappy. I'm divorced so I've been there but you less frequently see people claiming their happiness in their singlehood. I agree, but I feel differently- I've been married for 131/2 years to my best friend, and we have had to separate more than once (for work purposes) I'm a musician and producer and I travel about 15,000 miles a year, ( in my heyday ) and we have fought about only 4 times in all that time ( no really ). I think it may be that we "think" we are going to be happy with "the one" but he/she "isn't" the one- I guess I got lucky, and I flatter myself that she feels the same way- I can see it in her eyes. But she's my third wife- I thought I had the "one" twice before her. I was so wrong. So here's to independence, but don't be so independent that you tell the right one "I want to see others" or you... dirish, what a wonderful comment. You and your wife are lucky. I think it's so important to be thankful for love if you have it what you said was a perfect commentary for that. I'm divorced and it gives me a little hope that "happily ever after" might arrive at a point in the plot of my life that maybe I just wasn't expecting. Yeah, I deeply regret the first thing that I told Janet when we met- because it turns out that my strong developed sense of independence was built on shame and hurt- I did get lucky- I just have to believe that everyone gets what I have. In order for that to happen though, you have to be willing to be hurt, again and again- Good luck my friend- remember that which does not kill you, makes you stronger- |
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