Most guys - though they can come off as more desperate than a brewhound in a dry county - take their time testing the relationship waters. If a woman comes on too fast - with talk of futures, or of how she's never felt this way before - then the man often will be likely to retreat. Fast. It's not that he's not ready for a relationship; it's just that he's not ready to decide whether "Mony Mony" should be in the second or third set of the reception playlist.

"Can I call you sometime?"
Translation: "If you're ever lonely at 3 a.m. on a Saturday night...."

Well, he may or may not be that crass, but he is trying to keep the door cracked. If he's the one who's doing the ditching, then he's (unfairly, mind you) trying to lead you to believe that a break will strengthen the possibilities of some kind of rekindled romance in the future. If he's the victim, then he's trying to hang onto any slim chance he may have in the future with you (or possibly one of your friends). Either way, chec

Carrerinyes, you don't make clear what your thoughts are as against the author?
I can't get rid of mine! Any tips?
If I had it all again ...

Righthand, the post was meant as a follow-up to this little gem on Yahoo this morning:

Wikipedia's Jimmy Wales splits with Rachel Marsden online — so she auctions his clothes. »

It seems he used the line "It's not you - it's me"

As for your own dilemma - I recommend watching the movie "Dirty Rotten Scoundrels"

Righthand: You could buy her a nice little pressie:

http://clipmarks.com/clipmark/0E77AB7D-219E-4B82-890
2-9202F4F091BE/