 mugofcoffee says: well written.. all so true! discovering this changed my life 10+ years ago. Great philosophy  Friend of mine says being unforgiving is like drinking poison and hoping someone else will die from it. forgiveness is like the river, for once you forgive, you'll be sure to flow forever There is something wonderful in being able to come out of the bitterness and hurt of dealing with unwanted people and situations; above all, forgiving the people, who are responsible for it all...forgiveness shows that we are much better human beings than they can ever be! I totally agree with Masbury and Chris...very well said... Seen that everyone is playing so nice, I'll play the devil on the shoulder: forgiveness is overrated. Let the grudge fester, let it become hate, you will love yourself more because you can show how committed you are. They is no better feeling than giving someone the old stick eye, they know they wronged you so let them feel it. Let them stew for a while, whenever they see you they will feel ashamed, and rightly they should. So make them feel bad, I know you want to. MWAHAHAHHAahaha *cough* hAhAHAHAhahahah Yes, it's good to forgive. But, I don't think you should forget either. Some people ask you to forgive them, you say OK and you mean it. They take it to mean they can do or say the same thing to you over and over again because you forgive them and therefore the past is history and you should act like what they did or said to you happened for the first time. I never forget. tanyamm - absolutely. You can ditch the grudge without becoming foolish. God forgets our guilt, according to the Bible, but he "remembers our frame," he know our weaknesses. Abusers will try to get us to treat them as people who didn't hurt us; they'll insist we haven't truly forgiven them. But real forgiveness is separate from trust. Forgiveness can be given (though it takes some repetition sometimes, until it sticks in our hearts!), but trust can only - and, wisdom suggests, should only - be rebuilt on the basis of slow accumulation of long-term evidence. Forgiveness is a word and a concept... perhaps some deeds do get forgiven by some, but typically it needs to be paired with 'forget', otherwise another saying comes to mind 'you can't forget the past any more than you can change it'. It's certainly easy to say 'I forgive', a lot tougher to actually do so, although a lot depends on the offense. Some feel that not forgiving is somehow a weight on their consciousness... I disagree. It all depends on one's outlook. You can stop dwelling on something in the past, without 'forgiving' per say. To some degree 'lack' of forgiveness is a deterrent (for some) not to do things that shouldn't be done, provided one cares about the consequences of cou... |
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