Self-help mantras may not always be helpful


	Self-help mantras may not always be helpful

chara

7-5-2009 7:08 PM

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There are more than 45,000 titles on Amazon that claim they can help us realise our ambitions and desires: riches, career status, an adoring husband, sexual success, and a slim body. Like Self Help they can be punishing in their judgements: if we fail to achieve, it is our fault.

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