If euphemisms like collateral damage and friendly fire are part of your campaign, then you might actually be on the wrong path.

4. If you die, will you die doing what you love?

I’d say that overall, a love shouldn’t require your expiration. Certainly self-sacrifice is part of love, but conditions that require the ultimate sacrifice are very, very rare. If your passion routinely puts you in deadly situations, then you have probably given yourself to Thanatos. Extreme sports come to mind, but there are many ways people find a transcendent, spiritual experience by courting death. The spirit that they seek is destruction, not love, remember, they feel the same in the beginning, but they are not the same, one is a creative force, and one is destructive…

These are but four simple questions, neither an authoritative or complete list… I believe that scrutinizing our passions, and looking for traces of Thanatos is some of the most important work we can do in our lives.