Attraction, strength and self humor


	Attraction, strength and self humor

balthazarus

8-6-2008 8:48 AM

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humor, attraction

balthazarus says:

the article is more elaborate. but it points towards self humor as an attractive trait but only if backed up by achievements.
this too is a matter of emotional and otherwise affordability.

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8-6-2008 3:09 PM

debbyski

Good clip!

8-7-2008 11:14 AM

tanyamm

I could be considered low-status so I guess you could call what I do self-defence.

8-7-2008 11:20 AM

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