The Adoption Experience: Maternal Instinct


	The Adoption Experience: Maternal Instinct

ronhuxley

11-11-2009 9:07 AM

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adoption, dad, maternal instinct, mom, national adoption month, parenting

ronhuxley says:

In celebration of National Adoption Month, I am highlighting another adoption story. This story, clipped from an adoptive mom's blog, shares the awkwardness and fears of adopting (and someday letting go) of two adopted children from another country.

What is your adoptive story? Has it been easy or difficult to be a mom or dad to adopted children? Tweet us a reply or comment below.

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