They have to change. Not me, no way. It's them! What we've found is that if you believe that the answer to your unhappiness lies in some one else's hands (no matter how much you love them), you're in for loads of trouble....excerpts!

Very true.

what abt broken promises?

they tend to hurt u until a while.

yes you r right happiness is in our hands and there is no point in blaming someone.... but u just cant be self centric all the time naa.. u depend on others,u trust them and if they dont deliver u tend to get upset... but its true that this upset should be momentary and u should let it pass....

i think it's a bit of a combo, b/c it's hard to be happy if your partner is hurting you, or making you sad- regardless how hard you are focusing on your own happiness. But what i can say, from experience, is-- you don't give yourself enough credit if you DEPEND on someone else to provide you with happiness- i think the best thing 2 people can do in a relationship is bring the best of themselves- happiness and all, and together- they will be happier people b/c of the positive connection they get from eachother.