<div style="margin: 12px 0px; font-family: arial; color: #333333; background: #ffffff; border: solid 4px #e5e5e5; width: 100%; clear: left;"><div class="CM_CTB_Content_Wrap" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;background-color: #ffffff;"><div style="border-bottom: solid 1px #dcdcdc; white-space: nowrap; margin-bottom: 8px; background-color: #eeeeee ;background-image: url(http://clipmarks.com/images/source-bg.gif); background-repeat: repeat-x; height: 24px; line-height: 24px; vertical-align: middle; padding-bottom: 4px; color: #666666; font-size: 10px;" ><a href="http://clipmarks.com/clip-to-blog/" title="see clips that are hot right now"><img src="http://content.clipmarks.com/blog_embed/db320224-3cf0-4ee1-8825-6043c79e441b/0E9A2005-8269-4F54-9F2C-0EE06A799418/" alt="" width="19" height="19" border="0" style="vertical-align: middle; margin: 0px 4px; display: inline; border: none; float:none;" /></a>clipped from <a title="http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/04/14/lw.let.me.whine.nice/index.html" href="http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/04/14/lw.let.me.whine.nice/index.html" style="font-size: 11px;">www.cnn.com</a></div><blockquote style="text-align: left; padding: 0px 8px; margin: 4px 0px 8px 0px; background: transparent; border: none;" cite="http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/04/14/lw.let.me.whine.nice/index.html">Rob Siegal made a mistake shortly after he married his wife Jen in 2002.</blockquote><div style="height: 2px; font-size: 2px; background: #dcdcdc; border-bottom: solid 1px #f5f5f5; margin: 2px 4px;"></div><blockquote style="text-align: left; padding: 0px 8px; margin: 4px 0px 8px 0px; background: transparent; border: none;" cite="http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/04/14/lw.let.me.whine.nice/index.html"><P> When she started complaining about her boss, the 37-year-old suggested that she look for another job. It was a sensible reaction that he thought she would appreciate.</P></blockquote><div style="height: 2px; font-size: 2px; background: #dcdcdc; border-bottom: solid 1px #f5f5f5; margin: 2px 4px;"></div><blockquote style="text-align: left; padding: 0px 8px; margin: 4px 0px 8px 0px; background: transparent; border: none;" cite="http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/04/14/lw.let.me.whine.nice/index.html"><P> But Jen Siegal wasn't looking for solutions, she says. She just wanted a sympathetic ear.</P></blockquote><div style="height: 2px; font-size: 2px; background: #dcdcdc; border-bottom: solid 1px #f5f5f5; margin: 2px 4px;"></div><blockquote style="text-align: left; padding: 0px 8px; margin: 4px 0px 8px 0px; background: transparent; border: none;" cite="http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/04/14/lw.let.me.whine.nice/index.html"><P> Learning when to offer advice -- and when you should just shut up and listen -- can be a challenge. Sometimes people just want to share what's on their minds, and piping up with a solution can seem insensitive, or even intrusive</P></blockquote><div style="height: 2px; font-size: 2px; background: #dcdcdc; border-bottom: solid 1px #f5f5f5; margin: 2px 4px;"></div><blockquote style="text-align: left; padding: 0px 8px; margin: 4px 0px 8px 0px; background: transparent; border: none;" cite="http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/04/14/lw.let.me.whine.nice/index.html"><P> "You can say: 'I really need to chat about what's bothering me. Is it OK if I just vent and you listen?' " Thomas says. "Or: 'I really need some help solving a problem, and I'm looking for your advice.' "</P></blockquote><div style="height: 2px; font-size: 2px; background: #dcdcdc; border-bottom: solid 1px #f5f5f5; margin: 2px 4px;"></div><blockquote style="text-align: left; padding: 0px 8px; margin: 4px 0px 8px 0px; background: transparent; border: none;" cite="http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/personal/04/14/lw.let.me.whine.nice/index.html">Experts say it's important to understand the concept of metacommunication -- something Helfand refers to as "talking about talking." </blockquote></div><div style="margin: 0px 6px 6px 4px;"><table style="font-size: 11px;border-spacing: 0px;padding: 0px;" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" width="100%"><tr><td style="background:transparent;border-width:0px;padding:0px;">&nbsp;</td><td align="right" style="background:transparent;border-width:0px;padding:0px;width:107px" width="107"><a href="http://clipmarks.com/share/0E9A2005-8269-4F54-9F2C-0EE06A799418/blog/" title="blog or email this clip"><img src="http://content9.clipmarks.com/images/c2b-foot.png" border="0" alt="blog it" width="107" height="17" style="border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;" /></a></td></tr></table></div></div>

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