I knew what it was right away. Been there, done that and expecting it again. We seem to be the only ones with any emotional and mental and financial stability...and I'm not meaning that in a bad way; except when it applies to irresponsible adult children. I'm getting a little weary of being 'needed'. :~) jatfla? Conservatives with irresponsible children who don't pick themselves up by their bootstraps? Not very funny, Bobby. Your comments have always appeared to me to have a very conflicted and distorted idea of conservatives. I can't change your mind or help how you think. In many ways I view those bootstraps as having been cut off by our culture. Irresponsibility has been excused, cushioned, and validated. While undergirding with love, respect, and care for the innocent ones, we are allowing the consequences to make their indelible impressions that, hopefully, lead to maturing and character building. Fortunately I can see a lot of progress in that direction and even genuine appreciation for us and the lessons learned. The "expecting" is coming from a completely different situati... My bad, I can only read the sentences as they are written. Irresponsible adult children could (and was by me) taken in the sense of a 40 yr oldish, irresponsible, riding on their parents work and resume...... you know .... a George W. Bush. I can empathize with your situation. I am one of four and seem to be the only one who can or is interested in being there for my parents golden years. They prepared themselves financially but the body parts wear out. Best wishes in dealing with the demands in your life. All is forgiven....except for the GWB remark :~) I am an only-child but I know of families with many siblings and invariably the responsibilities fall on only one. Frankly, don't you think, that the financial problems are the easiest to bear? It's the physical care that they need and being so helpless as once vibrant family members become frail and helpless before your very eyes. It's the pain you see in their eyes and their dread and their sadness for the dependency that comes. I regret the sense of inner joy and gratitude that was once felt for the privilege of caring for our elderly and needy parents; that sense of giving back. Sadly, selfishness and the 'all about me 'syndrome' se... All is forgiven...except the GWB remark. :~) I am an only child but I have seen that even with many siblings within a family, invariably the responsibilities fall on one. Don't you think that the financial issues are easier to deal with than the physical and emotional ones? Watching our once vibrant family members mentally and physically diminish and seeing their pain at being helpless and hating the dependency....well, that's just super difficult for everyone in my opinion. I can only offer this. There is such inner peace...when all is over and done...knowing that you committed yourself to the care and well-being of that person. To have no regrets is an awesome thing. Best wishes to you also. mmmm...saandwiich...  sorry, just couldn't resist. |
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